I BEING ABUSED?
(provided by National
Coalition Against Domestic Violence)
over the following questions. Think about how you are being
treated and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one
person scares, hurts or continually puts down the other person,
____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or
____ Put down your accomplishments or goals?
____ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
____ Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?
____ Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
____ Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you
are where you said you would be?
____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things
or abusing you?
____ Blame you for how they feel or act?
____ Pressure you sexually for things you aren't ready for?
____ Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the
____ Prevent you from doing things you want - like spending time
with your friends or family?
____ Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you
somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson"?
____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner's
____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you
changed something about yourself?
____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make
your partner angry?
____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what
____ Stay with you partner because you are afraid of what your
partner would do if you broke-up?
any of these are happening in your relationship, talk to
someone. Without some help, the abuse will continue.